This caped teacher's parents may laugh loudly at this, but I just want him to learn that the lie is not easier. It seems easier before the telling, during the telling, and for a short while after the telling, but it is, in fact, much more difficult. Many of us know this. One of us learned this the hard way and over a long period of years telling lies to her parents.
V. is still learning this. Years in foster care have not cured him of it. I hesitate to say it may have made him more certain that lies are easier. I would guess the lies feel safer on many levels.
The other day V. was presented with an opportunity to choose a lie over the truth. The truth was easy and painless, the lie was... just that. A lie. I asked him for the truth, he lied I asked him again and said (watch out... here it comes.... a new rule!)
"Lead with the truth, dude."
And he did. He told the truth. He did the next day too. Then he lied again. Either way, Rule #1 has been added to the list.